True Self-Love Spell
The True Self-Love Spell increases your internal feelings of self-love, beauty, and self-confidence so you manifest them externally. It’s also capable of serving as a glamour spell in order to be perceived as attractive and confident. It’s best to perform this spell on a Friday or during a planetary hour when Venus rules. If you can catch the sun or moon in a phase that’s ruled by a zodiac sign aligned with Venus (Taurus or Libra), that’s great! Nonetheless, you’re still free to do this spell at any time when you need to draw forth Venus’s power to manifest self-love within yourself and the world around you.
If you know me, you know that I’ve been practicing witchcraft for almost 18 years and I advocate for self-love. My self-love interpretations and advocacy include the healthy expressions of self-love that society doesn’t recognize as valid or acceptable. I’ve written about self-love tips and loving myself as a fat person, and I’m at the point where I am embracing self-love as a journey rather than a specific destination. I’ve also been featured on quite a few websites for being autosexual and autoromantic, which means I’m both sexually and romantically attracted to myself. I’ve spent years learning how to love myself while being actively devalued by society for being fat and struggling with mental health issues. This is likely to be something I’ll have to cope with for the rest of my life, but having a sense of self-love makes it far more doable.
Over the years, I’ve learned that developing a strong sense of self-love consists of way more than sheet masks and bath bombs. It’s also setting boundaries, being honest with yourself and others, and disrupting patterns in your thoughts, behavior, and life that are detrimental or simply no longer benefit you. It takes conscientious effort and internal work to love yourself in the ways that you need to be loved the most. Casting The True Love Spell will align you with the energy of self-love in order to manifest it in the ways that are most meaningful and impactful to you as an individual.
You’ll only need the following ingredients to cast this spell: a pink heart-shaped candle, rose incense, and rose quartz. You’ll also need a paper and pen if you want to write the affirmation down.
First, gather the items and arrange them on the altar as you like. Once that’s done, light the pink candle and say the following invocation:
“Venus, goddess of love and beauty,
I honor You in all Your golden brilliance.
You are the source of all manifestations of beauty.
The unique beauty each person holds emanates directly from you.
Please join me in this spell to manifest true self-love in my being, life, and world
so that I recognize and embrace my own beauty to the fullest.”
After that, light the rose incense as an offering to Venus and continue on with the rest of the invocation:
“I call upon the power of Venus
To manifest self-love in my internal and external realities,
in all aspects of my existence,
especially in the areas where I need self-love the most.
I attune my mind, body, and soul to the power of Venus
so I experience true self-love that guides me towards lasting happiness and fulfillment.
Venus, please accept this rose incense as an offering and expression of my love and gratitude for you, as well as my desire to be close to you.
Please bless and empower me so I experience self-love to the fullest.”
Once you’ve finished the invocation, take a moment to absorb Venus’s energy into your mind, body, and soul. Feel Her presence inside of you and be open to any changes you experience in terms of thoughts, emotions, and/or physical sensations. When you feel like you’ve fully invoked Venus, put the rose quartz in your assertive hand (which is the hand you write with) and repeat the following chant to build energy:
“By Venus’s brilliant power,
I embody my own beauty.
Upon this sacred hour,
True self-love flows through my body.
It flows throughout my mind and soul,
Throughout my being as a whole.
I shine with candid confidence.
I exude my own radiance.”
With the power of Venus flowing through you, continue to hold the rose quartz in your assertive hand and say an affirmation at least six times. (Six is the number of Venus.) As you recite your affirmation, imagine Venus’s power activating and charging the rose quartz. Feel free to do more than one affirmation if it feels right to you.
Here are some affirmation ideas to inspire you. Feel free to use them verbatim, adapt them as needed, or completely make up your own:
“I embody my own kind of beauty.”
“I embrace the totality of my goddesshood/godhood/divinity.”
“I am a cutie pie and whoever gets a taste is lucky.”
“I deserve love and respect no matter what.”
If you’re plus size, feel free to use one of my fat positive lovecore affirmations. My favorite is the following: “I love my fat body and all of my curves, including my belly, rolls, and cellulite.”
As you chant, picture pink energy flowing through every particle of your being. Know that as the pink energy settles into you, it provides the foundation to manifest self-love in the ways it’ll benefit you the most. Once you feel full of pink energy, this is the time to write your affirmation down on a piece of paper then burn it. Then release the extra energy to the universe so it’ll manifest itself according to the spell’s intended purpose. After you’ve sent out the excess energy into the universe and grounded yourself, thank Venus for her participation and energy, then bid her farewell. You could either make up your own ritual closing or use the following words to finish it:
“Venus, thank you for helping me manifest true self-love.
I know you are always within me and around me.
This ritual is finished, but its effects live on.
So mote it be!”
Pay attention to the thoughts, dreams, and experiences that happen to you in the days/nights following this spell. Hold the rose quartz in your receptive hand (the hand you don’t write with) whenever you want to tap into/realign yourself with the Venusian energy of self-love. Feel free to meditate with it or sleep with it under your pillow.
Remember: You deserve to love yourself no matter what!
Ghia Vitale is a writer, poet, and witch from Long Island. She's the senior editor at Quail Bell Magazine, a fairy punk zine that publishes real and unreal stories. She’s also an advocate for body positivity, fat liberation, and self-love. You’ll find her posting pictures of herself in cute outfits under the #plussizefashion hashtag. Get updates about her and her writing by following her on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.
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